I know some of you saw my post on Facebook the other day, but for those of you who missed it and for those who are curious, I had my first troll the other day. That should put me in some kind of special blogger club or something. Bloggers Who Have To Ban Assholes might be a fun club to be in. I’ve had a few people ask me what the hell was going on, so today I’m sharing.
Before I share the whole conversation, I will tell you, I’ve never banned anyone before. I don’t moderate blog comments. I’ve never removed a comment from my blog because it disagreed with me.
When it came down to it, I was conflicted on banning him. Sure, he was a complete asshole, but I love free speech. I believe in everyone being able to express themselves, whether it be in agreement or disagreement. So, I let this douchebag go on and on with his opinion, for probably much longer than I should have.
What this guy was lacking, and what ultimately led to him being banned, was respect. Even a condescending respect would have helped out here.
What I didn’t realize when I banned him on Facebook was that all the conversations he was part of would be hidden. I can still see them, but no one else can. That wasn’t my goal. I don’t like hiding what was said. I only had two choices – either keep it open as a free for all, or hide everything to do with him.
I’ve had a few people ask me what was so bad that I would ban him. It wasn’t when he bashed women in general. It wasn’t even when he felt like he could judge me and my parenting based on a few replies I made back to him. When he resorted to name calling and personally attacking another person who made comments on the page, the line was crossed.
I’m sharing a screen print of the conversation below. But, if you are my mom, mother in law, or anyone who may get offended by some extremely disrespectful words, I’d suggest you don’t read it.
Last week I shared a Huffington Post link on Kansas’s proposed spanking bill on my facebook wall. I shared it a day or two before I wrote about the comments I’d been seeing. The comments below were all under that link.
I guess I’ve decided that in my tiny internet space, I have to draw the line somewhere. Differences of opinions and spirited debate will always be welcome. Calling other people who comment terrible names, can’t be. If Charlie Wilson wants total freedom of speech, he can have it on his own blog and Facebook page.